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About a year ago I put a post up on Mumsnet asking what the worst thing people had heard said related to illness or disability. Unfortunately the thread is no longer there, so I can’t link you to it, but it was an eye opening and fairly horrible read.
Murder of Goths 
Oo, i have a similar one…
Depression also started as a teenager, also alternating self harm and disordered eating
Psych referral after manic behaviour recently. Manic behaviour written off by community psych nurse as “thats normal”, and then told depression was due to my arthritis, which came on after second pregnancy age 26
One I think I put on your thread at the time, from a family member “you don’t need that chair, let your mum sit down”. To which my mum answered somewhat sharply, that actually I needed it more than her.
They do like to get things the wrong way around don’t they?
And yes, I remember your post. Because we are young we are expected to be in full health.
I could write a long list of comments made about my mental illness, but my “favorite” is: “So you didn’t get your way and now you’re acting like a child? You’re an adult!” As if 1. the reason I had a meltdown was about getting my way, and 2. I had suddenly stopped realizing I am an adult whilst in a meltdown (as if thoughts about my age cross my mind then).
“I know one of my friends was told she couldn’t be depressed as she was “too eloquent”.”
To this day I still can’t see that doctor, she still works at my local surgery. If I get given an appointment with her I would rather wait a few more days to see someone else.
I was told at the age of 16 by a councillor that my self harm was a habit, like smoking. Really not helpful.
Glad you are ok with me posting that example sweetheart x
You really have heard some of the worst comments 😦
My pet hate was fellow medics slagging off a depressed patient for going to a bar.
I mean, bloody hell, quite apart from the effort required in going out AT ALL, if anyone’s entitled to try and cheer themselves up it’s the depressed , surely?
When I succumbed myself, it made me very solitary because I thought everyone would be judging if I tried to have a life. And guess what, I knew from before that I was right.
Oh yes, if you are depressed I think people expect you to stay home and self flagellate.
So many worsts ~ and the frequency at which people say them is appalling. Great post!