#WeAreTheThey and I’ll wear tight clothing if I want to

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The beautiful Debs has come up with a new plan for #WeAreTheThey, today a group of bloggers will be breaking some so-called rules for plus size women. We are wearing the kinds of things that normally the fashion industry considers forbidden territory for us larger women.

Because why should slimmer women have all the fun?

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Sisterhood thanks to #PlusSizeWars and #WeAreTheThey

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The last few days have been incredible, and quite emotional. I’ve never seen anything quite like it, and will always treasure having been there for it.

It all started with Plus Sized Wars, a programme on Channel 4 about plus size bloggers and plus size fashion. As the time approached for it to air almost my whole Twitter timeline seemed to be holding it’s breath. Was this going to be a horrific car crash of a TV show? Were we going to see beloved bloggers used as cannon fodder in the name of controversial television?

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#DropThePlus – please listen instead of misrepresenting our views

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I was intrigued by a linkback I got to one of my #DropThePlus blog posts. It was written by someone in favour of #DropThePlus and on first reading I couldn’t  see why I was getting a linkback, so I read it again, and then a third time. Until I spotted that the link to my blog was in this paragraph..

While some argue that the reason it’s good to use the term “plus size” because, in the modeling and fashion industries, a size 4 or above is larger compared to the majority of models

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The Diet Industry and triggers

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I have to admit, this is a post about a specific conversation. But it got me thinking, and it got me thinking about something that I find tough to think about. So I figured getting it out of my system might stop it circling around in my mind.

You may have read before that I have struggled with disordered eating. I still struggle with the thoughts and still have the same triggers.

I want to talk about some of those. Shouldn’t need saying, but trigger warnings galore here.

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#DropThePlus and our daughters

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Sorry to be repetitive, but I’ve been reading more on the #DropThePlus campaign and it got me thinking. Lovely as Ajay is, I’m sorry to say the more I think about it the less keen I am on it. Though I agree totally with their desire to make a better world for girls, and applaud them for their attempts, if not their methods.

I suspect this will be a long post.

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Being stalked doesn’t feel “kind of exciting”

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I read something today which made me angry, turns out that in preparation for his role in The Fall, Jamie Dornan.. actually.. let me tell you in his own words..

I, like, followed a woman off the train one day to see what it felt like to pursue someone like that.

“I really kept my distance … she got off a few stops earlier than I was planning so I said right, I have to commit to this. I followed her around a couple of street corners and then was like: what are you doing?

“It felt kind of exciting, in a really sort of dirty way, I’m sort of not proud of myself. But I do honestly think I learned something from it, because I’ve obviously never done any of that. It was intriguing and interesting to enter that process of ‘what are you following her for?’ and ‘what are you trying to find out?’”

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Being an angry woman – and why it scares me

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Thanks to my gender I’ve known from a very young age that the expectations for me were radically different than the expectations for a child born to the opposite gender.

Thanks to my gender I was taught that it was preferable to be;

– caring (even towards those who would hurt us – sometimes especially towards them)

– gentle (no raised voices, no swearing, no anger)

– accommodating (we learn to compromise, to put other people’s needs ahead of our own)

– carers (the eternal mothers, even before puberty)

– pacifists (we are mediators, the calming ones)

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